A Spoiled Little Girl…

What a spoiled little girl I am… even in my 46 years of age. And I don’t mean in the material sense of the word.  Although I have received gifts over the years and have a typical amount of worldly possessions, I am actually referring to something completely intangible… being spoiled with love. 

Love is one of those things we crave or long for, no matter what age or stage in life.  Whether you are longing for maternal love, romantic love, brotherly love, spiritual love… love-is-love-is-love.  And, when we receive it, in its truest and purest form, it is an absolutely wonderful feeling.  For me, I have received the gift of love from the time of my tiara to the time of my lipstick. (And if you don’t know what I’m referring to here, be sure to go back and read my ‘What’s In a Name?’ post.)  The love started when I was a baby, coming from parents and grandparents who took care of me on a daily basis, and then extended into other family members and those I would meet throughout my life.  However, the focus of my post today is talk a little about the love from my father, and exactly what that translated into for me.

As I’ve morphed into this middle-aged woman, I have come to realize just how wonderful it has been to have had my father’s love and to still experience it today (on Father’s Day).  It has comforted me when I was afraid or sad, it has made me feel proud and accomplished, it has encouraged me to laugh tears of joy, and it has given me a sense of resolve that I can accomplish anything.  All of these things have helped contribute to me being proud of who I am, accepting me for me, loving myself, and knowing my self-worth.  These are the attributes that have helped me propel myself into various ambitions, looking challenges in the face and pursue some of my dreams with vigor. What a blessed gift it has been for me.

But… unfortunately I know that not everyone has experienced the same or can even speak to this type of experience.  For that, I am truly sorry.  However, some of you may have had others in your life that have taken on this same ‘fatherly’ role, or others who have loved you more, but in a different way.  The key for this love to “stick” is to hear it, feel it, and BELIEVE IT.  I may have had it easy, but I believe we all get an opportunity to ‘feel’ and ‘accept’ the love we are given.  For some, the negative things are easier to believe than the love… and that’s what has to change!

You can easily breathe in the love from others in your life… as long as you are open to feeling it and accepting it.  I am here to tell you that you can achieve all of these same feelings in the end… and it starts with accepting yourself for who you are, just as we’ve been talking about for weeks.  Remember when we started the ‘Me Is She’ Challenge?  Week one, we owned up to our fears.  Week two, we acknowledged things we were grateful for. And last week, we admitted to something we love about ourselves.  

As we move into week 4, let’s reminisce on some of the love we have experienced over the years, and then focus on one of our dreams. I want you to think about one dream, something you really want to do, achieve, or accomplish; perhaps an item on your bucket list – no matter how big or small.  Focus on seeing yourself fulfilling this dream.  Now, have you previously received encouragement from others?  Or better yet, what advice would you give to someone else pursuing this same dream?  What positive words would you share? Come on, I know you have some.  As an example, here’s mine… “You’re never too old!”  

Once you have the words you would share…. Say them to yourself… over and over again.  Proclaim them, post them, repeat them!  Trust me, this positive energy is important.  The positive thoughts we say to ourselves are just as reassuring and motivating as the words we hear from others. (Just as our negative thoughts are just as damaging as the discouraging words from others.)  

So, post away!  Think positive thoughts – feel self acceptance – know your increased self worth… and feel the self-love begin to flow.  You will start to feel like a spoiled little girl.  And as I posted on my IG page… “When you start seeing your worth, you’ll find it harder to stay around people who don’t.”

– Chintz 💄